and the world comes crashing down...
i just got off the phone with a long time good friend of mine who was complaining to me about his girlfriend... he asked, 'despite having everything, when something is wrong in your relationship, the whole world seems to crash down on you...'
i smiled and replied, ' why should you ask me?'
after which he answered, ' because you are the relationship expert.'
i laughed out loud. whoever gave me that honour is an idiot who deserves to be shot.
doesnt mean you have had a few in the bag, doesnt qualify you as an expert. believe me. even if you have had practise, and lots of them you might have, you would be at lost all the time. you suddenly become a teenager who has never been kissed. in other words it doesnt get any easier.
the first part of the relationship is always the most wonderful. it is called the honeymoon period.
the second part is almost always the most difficult. this is the part where couples break up.
the third, even though as difficult as the first is the part when you have all the cards laid out. you know everything about your other half. but the problem is, you'd go.... '.. and now what?' time of trial and error. this is perhaps the longest.
but with any luck you'd get to the final part (although by no means the end) everything falls into place. it is by no means no plain sailing, but it is relatively the most wonderful. the first part is wonderful because of its innocence but this final part is great because of its maturity. there are no sparks and fireworks but the fire of love keeps you warm and contented. just imagine a cold, cold night and all you want to do is sit by the fire (even though it is more practical to say heater but it isnt as romantic) and feel warm.
in any case, to answer that question that dear friend had posed to me, is that, because she means the world to you. and if she is the world to you then when something is wrong there, your world, my dear friend, comes tumbling down.
i smiled and replied, ' why should you ask me?'
after which he answered, ' because you are the relationship expert.'
i laughed out loud. whoever gave me that honour is an idiot who deserves to be shot.
doesnt mean you have had a few in the bag, doesnt qualify you as an expert. believe me. even if you have had practise, and lots of them you might have, you would be at lost all the time. you suddenly become a teenager who has never been kissed. in other words it doesnt get any easier.
the first part of the relationship is always the most wonderful. it is called the honeymoon period.
the second part is almost always the most difficult. this is the part where couples break up.
the third, even though as difficult as the first is the part when you have all the cards laid out. you know everything about your other half. but the problem is, you'd go.... '.. and now what?' time of trial and error. this is perhaps the longest.
but with any luck you'd get to the final part (although by no means the end) everything falls into place. it is by no means no plain sailing, but it is relatively the most wonderful. the first part is wonderful because of its innocence but this final part is great because of its maturity. there are no sparks and fireworks but the fire of love keeps you warm and contented. just imagine a cold, cold night and all you want to do is sit by the fire (even though it is more practical to say heater but it isnt as romantic) and feel warm.
in any case, to answer that question that dear friend had posed to me, is that, because she means the world to you. and if she is the world to you then when something is wrong there, your world, my dear friend, comes tumbling down.
Finger Acrobatics Performed
On Monday, March 07, 2005 at 2:54 pm.
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